“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity…” ‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭1:7‬ ‭NLT‬‬

I once heard of a story of a promising young man who decided to wed his fiancée as his wife. The date was set, no expenses spared at all… All was in place and in sync for the biggest day of their lives which should be the happiest too, until six hours to the wedding. The man, unfortunately pulled out bringing shame to his family, friends, loved ones and especially, his bride to be. What was his reason? Out of every two marriages, one ends up in divorce (as you might know the divorce rate of marriages in the world is 50%). He couldn’t help but think that his marriage could be one out of every two to likely divorce hence his last minute retreat

What was his rationale behind this? It was fear! Fear made him had cold feet on the day of his wedding to his beautiful lady. Instead of seeing this as an opportunity to open a new chapter, build a life and home with a friend, possibly have children, create new memories… Rather, he saw it as a ticket to divorce and being among a statistic of failing marriages

Let us deal with this topic of fear. I believe we can all relate with this man one way or another. What is it? I will personally define it as the “unrealistic dread of the unknown which may seem real”. Does fear really have any basis or evidence to cripple you in the first place? I will answer this purely as an observer and a student of life- No! Most things we dread and consternate is nothing but an apparition

I really remember when I decided to respond to the call of God on my life i.e. to be a pastor. I remember how fear made me almost pass out on God’s opportunity for my life. I had the fear of being labeled young (late 20s) and not be taken serious, the fear of failure, the fear of being in a scandal (this one almost crippled me), the fear of having to be a role model and leader… Had so many unfounded fears which by the grace of God, I overcame and in my ninth year of pastoring, I have realized all these fears were unreal

Fear is not normal. There is nothing like “healthy fear”. We have reverential fear which means to be in awe of and treat with respect. It has nothing to do with terrifying fear or phobias. What do you treat with respect and honor? Well, I do that with God. He deserves that honor in my life and probably a few people I look up to and admire

So if fear is not normal and God given according to the scripture quote, how did it get here and has been a part of us in the first place. The Bible gives the answer to that. Look at this Bible verse

“And he said, “I heard You in the garden and I was afraid…” ‭‭Genesis‬ ‭3:10‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

When God created this world and the first man, there was nothing like fear. It only happened when man disobeyed God by taking the fruit of the tree. When he heard of God, he became afraid (fear) because of what he had done. Fear now became a gene passed on to the human race. Sin brought about fear. It is not God’s intention, desire or will for anyone to live in fear or have fear. So that explains why human beings now see fear as a part and parcel of them.

I wrote this to say, it is not normal and you can break away from that way of life and living. Fear has many negative implications which I will attempt to delve into but a few in our next post

Till, I come your way again

Peace and Love

4 thoughts on “Fear”

  1. Fear being an “unrealistic dread of the unknown which may seem real”…no wonder fear torments. Bless you for that!


  2. Osofo God bless you for this unfanthom insight on fear …l have also gone thru FOCUS both articles are messages on their own …very very encouraging and will give the link to friends to read ….something will rubb on them paaaaaaaaaaaa

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