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An Excellent Spirit

“Inasmuch as an excellent spirit, knowledge, understanding, interpreting dreams, solving riddles, and explaining enigmas were found in this Daniel, whom the king named Belteshazzar, now let Daniel be called, and he will give the interpretation.”” Daniel‬ ‭5:12‬

Hello, and glad to come your way again. Thought good and hard for a minute on what to write on, and settled on this which was suggested over a year ago by my brother in law.

This is a Bible story on Daniel who was a slave under Babylonian captivity. The preceding chapters documents his ascent. He became a ruler over Babylon, chief administrator over all the wise men of Babylon and “sat in the gate of the king”. The gate of the king in the East was a post of chief honor and dignity as a counselor of the king. Many factors play in Daniel’s success, but among one was an excellent spirit.

What is it? This text was written in Hebrew Aramaic and the word excellent is an adjective denoting preeminent, surpassing, extreme, extraordinary. So excellence in this passage means you go an extra step above the ordinary which makes you extraordinary. So from this meaning alone, I could say, Daniel had a great work ethic. No lazy person can be excellent.

What made him excellent? We can glean from his story which can be applicable to our lives.

1. He brought solution to a problem- if you read the first eleven verses of chapter 5, you will get a better context of the text quoted. The king, his lords, wives and concubines were feasting and drinking. In the middle of that, the king saw a hand write on the wall of his palace (which calls for alarm). The king became worried and wanted an interpretation of the writing. His astrologers, magicians and soothsayers couldn’t interpret the writing. This was where Daniel came in, hence the description of him. He interpreted the writing which spelt the future of the king. An excellent spirit brings solutions where there are puzzles. May this quality reflect among our work colleagues, friends, family and the like.

“Then this Daniel distinguished himself above the governors and satraps, because an excellent spirit was in him; and the king gave thought to setting him over the whole realm.” ‭‭Daniel‬ ‭6:3‬ ‭

2. He was eminent at his work– the success at what he does was clear on one factor: an excellent spirit. You go above average and give out your very best. There are too many average employees at work who are just interested in having a paycheck. They will also complain about lack of opportunities and why they are overlooked when it comes to promotion. An excellent employee will not get to work at the start of his shift at 7am. No, he will be there ten minutes earlier. You have a fifteen minute break and you still need your supervisor to tell you break is over. The sad thing is, he has been telling you this for the past five years. That is not being excellent. Excellence also means you need little or no supervision to do the things that are required of you. You can’t be extraordinary when you are so used to ordinary things. It comes at a price of overextending yourself to break every ceiling and lift every lid over your life. What we see from this verse too is, excellence will get you noticed and promoted. It is IMPOSSIBLE to live in obscurity when you are excellent.

“So the governors and satraps sought to find some charge against Daniel concerning the kingdom; but they could find no charge or fault, because he was faithful; nor was there any error or fault found in him.” ‭‭Daniel‬ ‭6:4‬ ‭

3. Excellent people are faithful- they are not perfect; they are just responsible. Living a life of excellence brings a lot of hate and envy at times. You might have just few friends. I have realized with time that excellent people will value doing the right thing over the good thing. Sometimes, right and good things are mutually exclusive, think about it. Excellence breeds faithfulness. Faithfulness means you carry your assigned tasks to the letter. It will be difficult to lay a charge on you. People easily make themselves dispensable at work through their attitude and average results on their tasks. These things make the higher-ups easily find a fault. I pray as I write that may we truly be excellent, especially at our work.

May we move from average, and may we not settle at good. May we pay every price necessary to attain excellence.

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Moving Past The Scars of The Past Year

“After the death of Moses the servant of the LORD, it came to pass that the LORD spoke to Joshua the son of Nun, Moses’ assistant, saying: “Moses My servant is dead. Now therefore, arise, go over this Jordan, you and all this people, to the land which I am giving to them—the children of Israel.” Joshua‬ ‭1:1-2‬

Hello, and glad to come your way again. Hardly does a year go by without us experiencing some sort of scar. Such is life! Every year is unique because of its peculiar challenges.

A scar oftentimes serves as a reminder- it either empowers you to move forward after learning from your mistakes, or cripple you in fear to bring you to a standstill. I don’t know how each of us processed this past year, but I hope after reading this today, may we be inspired to make a move.

This scripture starts off with the death of Moses, who lead the Israelites through the wilderness for forty years. At the threshold of entering the Promised Land in Canaan, the unexpected happens: Moses is dead. Now the Israelites are at a crossroads wondering, who will lead them. A leadership gap caused them to standstill and also cower in fear. This mirrors some of us as we have entered into the New Year. The grim and harsh memories of the past year have caused many to standstill and not even dream again because of the fear of the unknown- possibly evil.

From this scripture, we can deduce some things which will help us as we navigate the uncharted path of this year.

1. Be assured of God’s presence

“No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life; as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you nor forsake you.” Joshua‬ ‭1:5‬ ‭

This scripture is very personal to me, because I took solace in that upon hearing on the unexpected passing of my father. Some never feel God’s presence, but He is as real as the person next to you. God is not a mystery! He has ALWAYS desired fellowship with man. The relationship starts by receiving Jesus into your life as Savior and Lord. The next is reading the Bible to get an accurate picture of who God is. As a result of continually building this relationship, you will sense Him. Things that are unseen are as real as the seen. Never seen airwaves before, but I know it exists because of wireless and many related things.

2. Be bold!

Be strong and of good courage, for to this people you shall divide as an inheritance the land which I swore to their fathers to give them.” Joshua‬ ‭1:6‬ ‭

The result of strength and courage is boldness. Don’t let the sting of the past rob you of living boldly. It is much work living in fear and cowardice. One of the sources of strength is prayer. Commit to prayer and see the aftereffects of boldness rub off on you. Boldness is not the absence of fear, but rather moving in the face of fear. There is nothing like a perfect time to rid yourself of all fears before you move. You will wait forever! Take a bold step this year to TRY IT AGAIN. What ever that IT is, don’t give up just yet. I pray for every reader to be strengthened with God’s power today that results in living boldly.

strengthened with all might, according to His glorious power…” Colossians‬ ‭1:11‬ ‭

3. Meditation

“This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.” ‭‭Joshua‬ ‭1:8‬ ‭

I am aware of different kinds of meditation, but I am looking at this from a Christian context. Meditation is when you fill your mind with the Word of God and ponder on it till it sinks in your heart. The ability to memorize a Bible verse by the heart is meditation. Meditation means now you operate the Bible from your heart which is the seat of your conviction, than just giving mental assent. Anything you believe, you will do! Walking by the Bible too makes one’s way prosperous and experience success.

Basically, today’s three points centers on building a relationship with God and getting to know Him through prayer and the Bible. That will be your safest bet on staying afloat in this year and the years to come.

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The Mind of Christ

Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.” Philippians‬ ‭2:5-8‬ ‭

Glad to come your way and write my first post of the year. I trust we all had a great Christmas holidays?

As a professing Christian, my personal goal this year is to be more of Christ, my Lord and savior, in word, deed and practice. My understanding of Christianity is to assume His likeness in our daily walk. The question is, how do I reflect Christ’s ideals and virtues, if I don’t look at his mindset?

This Bible passage goes into detail the mind of Christ and how He was able to affect humanity at large. As of writing today, Christianity is known to be the largest of the world’s major and practiced religions with more than two billion followers. So it goes to say, Jesus Christ has been quite influential.

I deduce three things when I read this text, and sharing these will hopefully make us better humans this year and the years beyond. One of the best investments is in yourself- striving to be a better you as the days go by. You become a better you in hope of becoming a better servant leader to your world. It makes life meaningful and purposeful. With that said, let us dive in.

1. “…but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men…”

The first lesson I learn here is empathy. My personal definition is the ability to step into one’s shoes to understand how he feels, thinks and acts. From this read, Jesus didn’t know what it meant to be a servant and a man, but for Him to relate well on this earth, “He made himself of no reputation”. When you look at this phrase in the Greek, it means He emptied Himself of His divine attributes that made Him equal with God, so that He could be a man. The lesson is, you can’t fit in until you pay the price of emptying something. This year, we can relate well with people, if we are a bit more empathetic. It comes at a price though.

2. “…And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself…”

The second thing I learn here is humility. Humility and being docile are not in the same bracket. When you think of humility, don’t think of weakness, rather meekness. It is the ability to be modest or behave in an unassuming manner. That to me, is the height of super confidence. As I write, this quality reminds me exactly of my pastor. I consider him a great leader and one I learn from because he embodies this quality well which has extended his influence greatly. It takes great strength not to boast in yourself. It takes real power not to abuse people with your privileges. You are very secured in who you are if you don’t get that seat at the high table. Not rubbing shoulders with the high and mighty doesn’t define you, so you don’t boot lick your way into their company. People who are humble don’t hold grudges and can easily forgive. One aspect of humility shows in how you relate with authority. Rebellion is a sign of cowardice, fearing you will be taken advantage of. Sometimes, it is just an illusion. Humility is a great virtue indeed!

3. “… and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.”

I love the Greek definition of this word obedient which means “give ear by attentively listening”. So in this definition, I see that obedience requires great attention to detail. You can’t do that if you are not focused. Mel Gibson’s The Passion of the Christ captures this quality succinctly. In it, you will see a man who was meted out the harshest of inhumane treatment and that didn’t stop him from carrying His cross to be crucified. Such intensity of focus was born out of obedience. What assignment have you tasked yourself with or been given? Give ear by attentively listening with the intent of executing that task.

May we be better this year. I hope at the end of the year, you can chart at least one significant step upward in the growth of who you are becoming.

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Ending On A Note of Thanks

“in every situation [no matter what the circumstances] be thankful and continually give thanks to God; for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus.”1 Thessalonians‬ ‭5:18‬

I hope you have enjoyed the Christmas holidays so far? Today marks the last week of this year. As we wrap up, let me mention a word, thanksgiving. Many people feel offended at it already. “Why should I be thankful?” “What did this year bring?!”. It is okay to be abrasive about this. The greater majority of the world have been traumatized.

However, with all that 2020 brought our way, there is still a moment for us all to end this year with an attitude of gratitude. Why? Because of the scripture quoted above, it is the will of God to thank Him. Secondly, we thank Him IN every circumstance not FOR every circumstance.

What is the difference? God doesn’t want you to thank Him for the pandemic which has kept almost the whole world under siege for nine months. And then look at the devastating effects of it: deaths, sorrow, job losses, fear, economies shrinking etc. God is the not the author of confusion, nor the source of evil and pain in this world. So why thank Him for it?

Rather, in the unpleasant circumstances we have found ourselves in, thanking Him in it means:

i. Not allowing the circumstances to affect your praise of God- you rather thank Him and admonish Him that He is God over EVERY situation, and HE ALONE can make a way of escape out of this mess.

ii. It will not affect your confession and profession of who God is- humans can be fickle. We claim to love you till it becomes inconvenient on our part and cry foul. Unpleasant times are truly a test of our devotion to whether we hold firm our beliefs.

iii. You will not allow tough times to affect your demeanor- we have all battled with that one this year. This really hits home to majority, if not all reading. It is such a pain and an exercise to develop a cheerful countenance.

Being thankful can be arduous. Why say that? It will depend on the mood of your soul. You aren’t always a ‘happy-go-lucky’ kind when that moment comes up. Like David, we can learn to speak to our soul to bless the Lord- that is whether we feel like it or not. Look at the passage below.

Bless the LORD, O my soul; And all that is within me, bless His holy name!” Psalms‬ ‭103:1‬

If you are reading this, there is EVERY CAUSE to be thankful. The year might not have gone according to how you planned it. Yet still, IN ALL, let us be thankful and end this year on a good note.

God bless you all and thanks for reading. I appreciate all the love, support, feedback shown me over the past year. It is impossible to sail alone without you. Thanks again.

Happy New Year!

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A New Person

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”Romans‬ ‭12:2‬ ‭‬‬

Like I said last week, we want to focus on dealing with strongholds. I hope you all had a great weekend, and are looking forward to the festive week ahead.

Today’s text is a central key on dealing with strongholds of the mind. Dealing with strongholds according to this scripture passage means it is God’s work. You can’t deal with strongholds on your own, no matter your resolve.

Secondly, from this scripture passage, God wants to transform us into a new person. When the issue of change comes up, it is a difficult path to tread on. It means some unlearning and relearning will have to take place. It also means you will be stretched beyond your environs. No one (including me) likes that, especially when you have been comfortable in a zone for sometime.

Thirdly, you can see that being a new person all depends on thinking, not necessarily habits or character per se. If God wants to change us into a new person, He will work on our thinking which will in turn affect our habits and a change in character.

Looking at this scripture, one can ask, “how does God change people into new persons? What does He use?” Let us look at how God changes people. Consider this scripture passage.

“Every scripture is inspired by God and is useful for teaching, for showing mistakes, for correcting, and for training character,” 2 Timothy‬ ‭3:16‬ ‭

God will change us through the scriptures (the Bible). The Bible is an inspired book of God that has a four fold purpose in the life of every reader: teaching, showing mistakes, correcting and training character. God through the Bible will give you new ideals IF ONLY you read it. It is in that process that old mindsets and certain destructive thinking patterns will drop off. In addition to that, you will also know God’s will which is good, pleasing and perfect. People often ask me, “how do I know God’s will?” It is simple: read the Bible.

God is interested in your transformation, but you will also have to be committed for that to happen. I pray that in this season, one of the best gifts you can invest in is a good Bible- your key to transformation.

On this note, let me leave you with an advice an apostle gave his parishioners after teaching them the Bible.

“Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think continually on these things [center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart]. The things which you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things [in daily life], and the God [who is the source] of peace and well-being will be with you.” Philippians‬ ‭4:8-9‬ ‭

Next year can truly be a new year when it starts with a ‘new you‘.

Thank you for reading, and I wish you all a Merry Christmas!

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Strongholds

A perfect portrait of our mind’s thoughts

“For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,”
‭‭II Corinthians‬ ‭10:4-5‬ ‭

There is a warfare that takes place in the mind of every human. It is the pitting of ideas against another; each idea wants to be the dominant one. It is a real struggle.

What caught my eye in this Bible text is strongholds. Based on this, let us look at this word and define it.

A stronghold is a castle or a fortress. It has the idea of fortifying and holding things safely. So how does a thought become a stronghold? It is when you have a particular train of thought (either good or bad) that has built a fortress in your mind. In today’s world, we will call it a mindset. A mindset is simply a fortified thought.

Ideas entertained over a period of time builds a thought pattern in our lives, which defines our very existence and being. Man is the summation of his thoughts and beliefs on which he acts.

So someone may ask, “how do I identify strongholds in my minds?” Look at the most dominant train of thought. An example of a positive stronghold, is one who determines he can’t fail at an exam, no matter how difficult it is. He may pass because he has put in the work and hours of studying, but undergirding that state of preparation is a mental resolve. A bad example too could be one who believes, nothing good will come out of him. It shows in his demeanor- normally timid. People like that rarely contribute in meetings thinking they are stupid. They will even fight you if you compliment them on a good point they made, believing they are stupid indeed.

So strongholds manifest in our thought patterns, what we say and believe, and what we do (our manner of life). So after knowing these, how do we deal with especially, negative strongholds?

God willing, we will look at that in our next post.

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Our Thoughts

Hello, glad to come your way again after a month’s absence. All too soon, an eventful year (2020) will come to a close. I believe all of us have a story.

Today, I want to look at our thought life. Your outlook in life is determined by how you think. Healthy thinking produces a healthy life, stinky thinking produces a stinky life.

“For as he thinketh within himself, so is he…” Proverbs‬ ‭23:7‬

It is important to think, however it will be more prudent on our part to monitor the state of our thought life and improve upon our thoughts. That will help us to think even better. With that said, how did we get the thoughts we are accustomed to? What influences a particular way of thinking?

Please, join me as we look at a few of them.

1. Words– they come in the form of conversations we are engaged in, books we have read/are reading, movies we have watched and music we have listened to. Words create images and when they are created, it registers in your sub conscience which becomes a train of thought in the process of time. The way we think is not a happenstance, it is time invested to create that.

2. Environment- when I talk about this, I am looking more at your surroundings or neighborhood you grew up in or where you currently live. Environments create climates or an atmosphere. They impact our way of thinking. For example, people who grew up in an abusive place end up becoming abusers, generally speaking. The force of that environment forces you to think in a way and you gradually become your thoughts. People who haven’t let their environments determine their destiny are often hailed as heroes. It is a difficult feat, yet not impossible.

3. Culture- culture is a way of life. It has to do with people. That and environment are closely related, but there is a difference. Environment is a physical place, and the influence that shapes the people in the environment can be culture. Culture is knowing why this group of people think or act this way which affects how they live. With environmental influence, once you move out, the power of an environment is broken over you. With cultural, moving doesn’t do it. You have to commit to unlearn some things and relearn to break its hold.

It will be good on our part after reading to consider the impact of words, our environment and culture on our lives. It will definitely give us cues to why we think the way we do. A quality life is antecedent on quality thinking.

May God bless our minds!

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Why Do We Speak The Way We Do?

Hello, glad to come your way again. Trust we all had a good weekend? Last week, we looked at the power of words. It should be treated than just mere vocabulary. In fact, they are things- words carry and contain substance.

In today’s edition, we want to focus on the factors that contribute to one’s speaking. No one was born to talk the way we do. With that said, let us dive straight in.

1. What you hear- the first step to speech as a baby is linked to what he/she hears. It is impossible to be mute without being deaf first. There is a connection between the ear and the mouth for intelligible speech. Guard what you hear and filter through your sources, else it will affect how you talk. What do you listen to? Your influences, your mentors and teachers surely impact what you will say.

“Where can we go up? Our brethren have discouraged our hearts, saying, “The people are greater and taller than we; the cities are great and fortified up to heaven; moreover we have seen the sons of the Anakim there.” ’” ‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭1:28‬ ‭

Reading this story in context talks about Israel going forth to possess a land. They were confident of the prospects till they heard “fake news” from their brethren. With that said, it impacted their speech from “we are able” to “we are not able”. So many have suddenly become unable to complete certain tasks, not because they are incompetent, but because of the information that has discouraged their hearts. Guard your ears.

2. Your company- this is closely linked to the first point. Our sources of information can come from conversations we have with our family, friends and the like. You can’t choose your family, but you can with your friends. Have you realized no one talks vulgarly naturally, till they hang around a vulgar company? This brings it home to me in sports. No matter how refined your skill is, the team that surrounds you including your coach can be a lid on your greatness. “All of us have lids”, according to John Maxwell, and the ability to raise our lids somehow determines greatness. You can’t win if you are not surrounded by a winning team. Your vocabulary will change, if you let go of that relationship. Someone will ask, “what about my family?” You can limit contact and love the person from a distance.

3. Books– they impact vocabulary and build our skill on the use of words. Most competent public speakers are readers. It is no secret. Personally, anytime I read the Bible, I become a man of faith and it affects what I say in the time of circumstances. If I haven’t read that, I notice my response- very different. People who tend to develop weird conspiracy theories do so because because of what they surf on the internet and the books they read. Books are a huge factor in what we say.

May God help us all become better in our use of words from today. We are going to be intentional on the things that comes out of our mouths.

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The Things We Say

The words of my mouth are edifying like a fruit. It shapes things around and causes movements.”

“Lord, set up a guard for my mouth; keep watch at the door of my lips.” Psalms‬ ‭141:3‬ ‭

Glad to come your way again. As a matter of fact, this was supposed to be last’s week’s, but it got deleted when I pressed the ‘publish’ button which was strange and annoying at the same time. Let us have a crack at it again. Shall we?

Today, we want to focus on the importance of words that come out of our mouths. My prayer is, after reading, one will take into account how he/she talks. Words are not just words, they are things- it carries substance, there is a weight behind what you say and it also can impact your destiny.

How do I know that? Look at this scripture with me:

“Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say.” ‭Proverbs‬ ‭18:21‬ ‬‬

Anything that is life or death related has something to do with destiny. I think, when it comes to bridling our tongue from speaking carelessly, one has to rely more on the grace of God than on willpower. The first quoted scripture is an excerpt of a prayer made by King David.

How do we keep our mouths from just saying anything? Before, you come to the place of resolutions, steps, and principles. You first have to come to the place of prayer. Believe in the power of prayer by surrendering your vulnerability when it comes to the area of speech and you will leave empowered to practice the steps and principles you have in place.

People who can keep their speech in check are commended to be perfect (mature) because of their ability to control their bodies.

“All of us do many wrong things. But if you can control your tongue, you are mature and able to control your whole body.” ‭‭James‬ ‭3:2‬ ‭

Anybody who struggles with self mastery has to check the ‘health’ of his tongue. I am using health here because how wholesome are your words- are they fruitful, do they build people up? Sometimes, when in the hospital to check on your health, a thermometer is stuck in your mouth to check your body temperature.

You see, it goes beyond physics and science. Our tongues determine our world we live in and the state of our spirits.

Let us stop here and continue on this next week. Hope you were blessed reading? Please let me know through your comments.

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Put Your Work Clothes On

“Through [skillful and godly] wisdom a house [a life, a home, a family] is built, And by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation], And by knowledge its rooms are filled With all precious and pleasant riches.” Proverbs‬ ‭24:3-4‬ ‬‬

Hello, glad to come your way again. All too soon, we are in the last quarter (4th) of an eventful year. Today, I want to use this bible verse to talk about the family, particularly marriage.

First and foremost, marriage is a difficult (not impossible) enterprise to build. It involves many, many hours of labor, sweat, blood and tears. The illusion that marriage affords me to live with my other half “happily ever after” is a myth that needs to be shattered.

In this scripture, we see three virtues, though unconventional, that builds a family.

1. Knowledge- knowledge is generally defined as the acquisition of information. So before you step into a marriage relation; you have to know about the family dynamics, responsibilities of the spouses, what is entailed in a marriage, the challenges at each phase and stage of the marriage… so much we can list here. Reading books and having mentors are great ways of receiving information. Don’t only be enamored with preparing for the wedding (event) which is good, also invest an equal amount of time on the marriage (lifetime) knowledge wise. Knowledge fills the room of your house (marriage) with all pleasant and precious riches like peace, compatibility and the like.

2. Understanding- the general definition of understanding is comprehension. Anything comprehendible means you have been schooled in that area that you can answer majority of the questions asked. Understanding of the marriage relation establishes the union. Most quarrels and fights stem from a lack of understanding- the root cause. One general understanding we should have is the nature of marriage conflicts and effective conflict resolution skills. Every home is bound to experience conflict(s). You can’t pray it away or wish it away either. Be more concerned about how to handle conflicts when they rise. Have a general understanding too of crisis. It is bound to happen. It is amusing to watch people think, once married then all their problems will go away. Not quite true. Understanding how to deal with crisis and conflicts among many others stabilizes the union.

3. Wisdom- you build a family, house or for that matter, a marriage on wisdom. It is the practical application of knowledge you understand. The goal of knowing is to practically apply. Knowing and learning without application destroys the fiber of the marriage union and erodes trust. A wife will roll her eyes at her husband when he suggests they go for another marriage retreat or family conference. Every book read, all information gleaned and any advice received should be put to heart and practiced. Trust is built between spouses when they are “doers”, rather than “talkers” and “learners”.

I hope this has been a blessing reading? Let me know. Will love to read your comments and feedback as always. I enjoy interacting with the community that gives me feedback on a constant basis. Thank you.

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NB: I dedicate today’s blog to Albert and Darla. They counseled us prior to getting married and are our marriage mentors presently.