Sometimes, Discipline Isn’t Enough II

Hello guys, glad to come to your way again. How was your weekend? I followed up on the sports events in that span: COPA America, Wimbledon & Euro 2020. The drama filled with sports is something else… lol

Last week, we stressed on doing things out of self will and discipline is not ALWAYS the key. No matter how resolute you may seem, there are just “some things” that won’t bow to your resolve. We looked at a Bible passage of an apostle- a church leader who battled with certain bad habits. He came to the end of himself. In as much the virtue of self-mastery should be promoted, there are times you are at your wits end with yourself.

Look at the following verse of the same chapter we looked at last week.

“This makes me very sad! My body is leading me to death. I need someone to make me free from the power of sin over my body.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭7:24‬ ‭

The apostle, who was Paul in question, felt wretched over his inability to deal with the power of sin which was the issue at bay. This should teach us to have an empath on “certain people” who tend to give it all, yet don’t seem to overcome in the area of certain vices and addictions they may be personally fighting. Look at a church leader at his wits ends trying hard to save himself! This mirrors the silent cry of many going through it. Today, some of the people under the spotlight who are dealt the harshest of criticism are pastors embroiled in a scandal.

So, did Paul become free? Yes. Look at the evidence in this Bible verse.

“Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God’s law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭7:25‬ ‭

So you see, Paul indeed came to the end of himself and that is where Jesus Christ took over. Some of these fights in trying to conquer personal demons are out of our reach when we rely SOLELY on self will and discipline. The answer is in Jesus Christ who became our Lord by dying for our sins which included all our sinful, wicked and destructive habits that we don’t want people to know. He died so that we can all come to a place of rest by relying on Him.

It is only when people have made a decision to follow Jesus Christ, that they will TRULY come to a place of rest and empowerment to ward off destructive behaviors. As a Christian, I can personally attest to this: there is a certain inward strength and tenacity different from my natural, that sails me through some things. It is comforting at the same time knowing God has got this with me.

God doesn’t force a relationship with man. Man makes a will and a conscious decision to do so, and it is only through Jesus Christ that God ceases becoming a mystery to being very real in your life.

Think about it…

When you make that decision, pray this prayer: “Lord I invite you into my life as my savior. Deliver me from myself and from all my sinful ways. I repent of this and take this step of faith to proclaim you as the Lord of my struggles. Help me to know God as a father. Amen”

Congrats, if you did! This is the first of many steps. Get a Bible or download one- there are many Bible apps now. Look for a church in your area for mentorship and guidance on this walk of faith. Your journey of freedom starts now.

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Sometimes, Discipline Isn’t Enough

“And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I want to do what is right, but I can’t. I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway.” Romans‬ ‭7:18-19‬ ‭

Hello, glad to come your way again. I had a great weekend. Hope yours went well?

This Bible text really speaks to me that I want to share with this community today. I have learnt that, sometimes no matter how strong willed you are, you will still fall flat on your face when it comes to dealing with some bad or addictive habits. Sometimes, it is easy to counsel people and give them “steps” to beat it or “pray away” the situation- which can be a religious way to cop out. And yet, they still struggle.

With little understanding of the situation, we tend to judge those people we have counseled or prayed for that they are not disciplined, lack self governance or they are “not trying hard enough.”

Please listen to me; EVERYBODY has an issue which will let us talk like the scripture I just quoted. You know why? Because if life was that easy where everything can be fixed with resolutions, “mindmatics” & discipline, then we will never need God at all.

This scripture talks about the author’s personal struggle in conquering sinful tendencies. He was a Christian- in fact an apostle. He was a church leader that had people that look up to him in the community, yet he had struggles. Please, even monks do struggle! Understand that! Your “role model” perhaps is going through hell trying to overcome certain habits at the expense of his fame, fortune and reputation.

I wrote this to let you know, it is human and normal that discipline sometimes is not enough. In life, if all that you have is your discipline, I feel sorry for you because at a point, discipline is going to fail you. Keep on living and you’ll discover that.

Yesterday, in this part of our world was Independence Day, and even though people commemorated it with food, fun, celebration and fireworks. You ask yourself, “are people really free?”. So many are fighting serious addictions, bad habits, and the issue of sin which has caused them to throw their hands up in despair wanting to give up. A country can be independent, but the souls of that country NOT.

I want to speak to you through this post that DON’T GIVE UP! The verse of this chapter I quoted ends well on a good note, and we will look at that next week. We should have more empathy and understand difficult situations.

It is okay for people to touch us with their ugly and uncomfortable situations, and we not shooing them away. The truth is, what about if they have really tried their best?! Are we GOD to judge them as failures? What about you having a facade of perfection, yet quietly struggling? We can do better, good people!


May God keep you safe and sound! For those whose self-worth has been crushed due to your personal struggles, I pray for healing and restoration. I truly do!

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A Mother’s Advice on Manhood IV

Glad to come your way again. Today, we will conclude on this subject by looking at the last piece of advice to Solomon by his mother on manhood.

Over the past three issues, we looked at

1. Guarding against womanizing.

2 Guarding against alcoholism.

3. Speaking up on behalf of the defenseless.

Solomon’s mother was more particular about the core of her son’s being before he becomes king, rather than just becoming a good leader. Sometimes you can become good at what you do, and bad at who you are. There is a world of difference between the two.

Let us look at the maternal instruction to Solomon in this passage.

“Open your mouth, judge righteously, And plead the cause of the poor and needy.” Proverbs‬ ‭31:9‬ ‭

The last piece of advice was on righteous judgement, which means judging justly. One’s leadership becomes solid when the ingredient of justice is found. You see, you don’t judge righteously because you are a leader. You judge righteously because you are a man of justice first. Who you are determines what you will bring to the table.

How does one become a man of justice or just?

“I will praise You with uprightness of heart, When I learn Your righteous judgments.” Psalms‬ ‭119:7‬ ‭

One of the ways is, to read the Bible. The Bible here is referred to as “righteous judgments”. We can see from this Bible verse that the writer had an upright heart because of what he read. The Bible gives you an outlook in life which affects how you perceive things. One of the things you will discover in the Bible is, how just God is. This book doesn’t just inform, but transforms how we think. One of the ideals you will learn is to be nonpartisan.

With that said, let us look at some features of justice.

1. Correct measurements- this word righteous was used in relation with honest scales and weights in the Hebrew context. You were said to be righteous when you charge correctly without adjusting the scales. Scales back then were used in determining a lot: from an ephah of flour to a hin of oil. In today’s context, being just means you come clean in your business dealings with people concerning measurements or anything that has to do with metrics. You don’t exaggerate or overstretch the truth. Let your “3 feet” TRULY be “3 feet”.

2. Ethically right– righteousness had to do with rightness, which promoted a right way of doing things or having ethics in general. Ethics are commonly known as a moral code. You do things right because they are right. Ethics are born out of conviction, not convenience. People who have this sense and duty of doing things right listen to their conscience. Our conscience serves as a moral compass but the more we forsake it, it ends up becoming a dead one. It is just like not using a muscle which later atrophies. For example, what causes one to receive bribes; the other, rejects it? Conscience.

3. Impartiality- to execute righteous judgement, you don’t have to play games of favoritism. The rules should apply to all! In this life, there can be some exceptions to the rule, but as it is normally said, “the exception is not the rule”. That is quite understandable, but generally speaking, we shouldn’t allow respect of persons to cloud fair judgement. We become impartial when we look at a person’s skin color, financial status, relationship status and the like. We have to look beyond these and assess people based on character.

I end on this. God requires all of us to be just people. You don’t have to be a leader to exhibit that. Start small from wherever you are.

“Mankind, He has told you what is good and what it is the Lord requires of you: to act justly, to love faithfulness, and to walk humbly with your God.” Micah‬ ‭6:8‬ ‭

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A Mother’s Advice on Manhood III

Hello, glad to come your way again. Hope your weekend went well? In some parts of the world was Father’s Day.

Today, we want to continue with Bathsheba’s advice to Solomon, who was on the ascent to a king. Let us look at the Bible text in Proverbs 31:8.

“But you are to be a king who speaks up on behalf of the disenfranchised and pleads for the legal rights of the defenseless and those who are dying.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31:8‬ ‭TPT‬‬

You know, Solomon’s advice was being a good man, which should be the core of who he is. The core of who a man is, will definitely affect the quality of his leadership. So before Solomon will become a king, this quality of defending the defenseless should be first seen. Leadership sometimes doesn’t afford you the space to be something new or develop a new set of skills. It rather capitalizes on who you are, what you have, and then amplify those.

One thing we should know in this life is, there abounds many disenfranchised people who will never be in a position such as yours; people affected by systemic racism, people who don’t have economic opportunities, those who lack an education, the marginalized in society… and so on, and so forth.

The reality is, we live with these people and as people who may be a step above them. We must use our influence for the good of mankind. That is what makes one a leader in his community. Solomon’s mother advised her son to speak up for the unprivileged and plead their cause.

This to me talks about empathy. It is different from sympathy, which has to do with feeling sorry for a person or the condition he finds himself in. This rather deals with understanding the situation of a person by putting yourself in his shoes, then coming up with a solution to remedy that. Real men empathize! Sometimes, we paint a toxic picture of masculinity which promotes not been in touch with our emotions.

Our influence should not only cater to the powerful, privileged, the educated or the enfranchised. You make no difference or affect people’s lives for the better if these are the class or group you always want to be associated with. The other truth we should know is, they are just the minority of the world’s population. Our leadership and influence will then cease to be effective and irrelevant.

Life has a greater purpose and meaning when we stop living for ourselves and think of the next man’s plight, and how we can help make the world a better place for them. Without empathy, man will keep living selfishly thinking of “me, myself and I” which is really an empty shell of living. People who don’t think of other people are the most miserable and loneliest.

I pray that whoever reads this, especially men, will learn to empathize with people’s pain and misfortune, and then use our influence for the betterment of lives. It helps one become a better husband, father, son, brother, work colleague, leader… and a better man.

Speak up for the defenseless! Plead the cause of justice for those deprived! Our strong arms and chiseled physique we may have worked out in the gym shouldn’t only be featured in Men’s Health magazines or GQ for that matter, but should bear the weak and the in-firmed among us. You are not to solve the world’s problems, but you can help that friend, neighbor or whoever you know with your influence for a right cause.

May God continue to bless and prosper our plans!

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A Mother’s Advice on Manhood II

Hello, hope your weekend was good, and glad to come your way again.

Last week, we looked at a mother in Bathsheba advising her son, King Solomon, also known as Lemuel on manhood. The first piece of her advice to her son, who was on the ascent to a king, was on womanizing.

Like we established last week, his mother’s advice was not on leadership or governing principles, but being a good person at the core. You can have all the leadership principles, but if your core being is bad, you will be a bad leader.

Today, let us focus on the second part of her advice with our text on Proverbs 31:4-7.

4It is not for kings, O Lemuel, It is not for kings to drink wine, Nor for princes intoxicating drink; 5Lest they drink and forget the law, And pervert the justice of all the afflicted. 6Give strong drink to him who is perishing, And wine to those who are bitter of heart. 7Let him drink and forget his poverty, And remember his misery no more.” Proverbs‬ ‭31:4-7‬

This second piece of advice will strike a nerve with most men, or people reading in general; this is on alcoholism. His mother was not talking about having a social drink, but something deeper than that.

Personally, I allow my Christian beliefs and conviction to guide me, and I don’t drink at all. The subject at hand is not to convince you whether alcohol is a vice or virtue, but rather look at alcoholism which is being addicted to alcohol. With it, comes many implications that are rather damaging than good. In this text, Lemuel’s mother gave her son three reasons to consider before giving in to strong drink.

1. He will forget the law– drinking puts you “under influence” where good judgement and sound discretion are missing. You cease thinking well for that matter when addicted to alcohol. As a king, he needed the law to bring good governance to his nation. How will he do that when drunk? Anytime, there is a festive season around the corner, the most popular infomercial is the adverse effects of drink driving, because that is the commonest misfortune. The laws of a country permits a drink or two for everyone, but prohibits been under influence wanting to do assigned tasks like driving which could endanger many.

2. He perverts justice for the afflicted– the original text in Hebrew reads, “to deny the afflicted what is due them”. A sign of wise leadership is where justice is prevalent. Alcoholism dulls the senses from being fair and right, and plays into the emotional being of a person when making a decision. You and I know the importance of emotions, but it is not always the right outlet when it comes to critical thinking and problem solving. Relying on emotions all the time will cause a lapse in judgement.

3. It is not a good remedy for pain– three kinds of pain are mentioned in the text: one who is perishing meaning wretched, a bitter person and a poor person. It numbs the feelings, but doesn’t change the reality of your circumstance. When in pain, there are many alternatives that can help than alcohol. Giving in to strong drink in the time of your pain gives a powerful statement that you have given up and ready to die. The thing about alcohol is, when the sensation wears off, you are back to square one; it won’t change the problem or whatever state you found yourself in the first place. May I ask this question; when in misery, will you prefer not remembering it or getting out of the misery? Alcohol offers only the first option.

On this note, I end: guard your sobriety and vigilance at all cost. There is nothing that beats being in the present and in the moment. It is a great asset to yourself and the community at large.

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A Mother’s Advice on Manhood I

Hello, it has been long and glad to come your way again by this post. Hope we all had a good weekend?

This month, I want to look at the subject on manhood from a biblical point of view. One of the many things discussed in our world is, on how to be a man. Sometimes, the definition and treatise on manhood can come from a place of relativism. When your information is based solely on culture, society, or historical content, that information ceases to be absolute.

We also often look at who should talk on this subject? Is it the accomplished athlete, the bodybuilder, the successful corporate guy, the dutiful husband or the doting father?

Personally, I think the Bible has a very balanced view on this all important subject, so that will be our source for this month. I want us to look at a mother’s counsel to her son which will serve as our template.

In our scripture passage in Proverbs 31:1-9, you will see four things highlighted there and we will deal with one aspect weekly. The woman in question is Bathsheeba, mother of King Solomon, who was also known as Lemuel being advised on how to be a king. She didn’t focus too much on leadership or management principles, but rather talked on the core of a person’s being.

I learnt something important right there that leadership flows from the core of your being, so if you don’t focus on building that core of a person to be better day in and out, no matter your acquired leadership principles, you will still be a bad leader. With that said, let us look at the first part of her advice.

“The words of King Lemuel, the utterance which his mother taught him: What, my son? And what, son of my womb? And what, son of my vows? Do not give your strength to women, Nor your ways to that which destroys kings.” Proverbs‬ ‭31:1-3‬

So the first advice is on womanizing. Womanizing is engaging in numerous casual, sexual affairs with women, which at times leads to multiple affairs.

Throughout historical and contemporary times, womanizing is a polarizing subject. Some, for it, others against it. People look at it based on which grounds they are coming from. Looking at this from my Christian background, it does more harm than good.

You can’t build a solid family unit if a man is engaged in too many relations with others. The family is structured in such a way that it demands two spouses in a unit to raise children who will in turn affect the fiber of society, and goes a long way to shape the country. The society is as strong as the family.

Secondly, it has been proven historically that kingdoms and empires ended when kings married so many wives. Marriage is not only the union of two people; it is also the union of destinies, behaviors, influences, histories, world-views, families, generational mindsets and tendencies… and the like. What happens is, with each spouse comes a certain experience and counsel which might not always turn out good for the kingdom a king governs.

Look at a typical example with King Solomon who was the recipient of this advice.

But King Solomon loved many foreign women, as well as the daughter of Pharaoh: women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians, and Hittites— from the nations of whom the Lord had said to the children of Israel, “You shall not intermarry with them, nor they with you. Surely they will turn away your hearts after their gods.” Solomon clung to these in love.” I Kings‬ ‭11:1-2‬ ‭

Lemuel also known as Solomon here didn’t heed to his mother’s counsel. This affected Solomon’s reign as a king; he introduced different value systems and religious beliefs as a result of multiple marriages and affairs, which changed the entire structure of his kingdom. If you read the story further, his kingdom didn’t last.

A man exposed to multiple affairs also gives his strength away by exposing himself to diseases out there. STDs and multiple affairs coexist! They are partners. Strength is always not physical, could also mean financial strength. It is expensive and in my opinion, a waste of money to be in multiple affairs which doesn’t give you the height of satisfaction, yet renders you broke. If multiple affairs do bring satisfaction, why not stop at the next partner and keep chasing? It is an endless trail of passion that can never be quenched.

The quality of a society is based on the wholeness of a family unit, and the family is as strong as the man.

For the sake of family and the society, men have to come to a place of total wholeness experiencing REAL manhood.

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This Easter

Hello, hope we all had a good weekend? The first quarter of this year is almost over.

Yesterday marked the commemoration of the Easter week on the Christian calendar. It starts with Palm Sunday and ends on the next Sunday, Resurrection Sunday. Easter represents the last week of Jesus before He died on the cross, and resurrected again. The significance of this is, Jesus died to bring redemption to man, and He being raised from the dead means, He is Lord and has victory over death.

Today, my focus is looking at some events during that time to learn some lessons.

“On the next day much people that were come to the feast, when they heard that Jesus was coming to Jerusalem, Took branches of palm trees, and went forth to meet him, and cried, Hosanna: Blessed is the King of Israel that cometh in the name of the Lord.” John‬ ‭12:12-13‬ ‭

1. They didn’t know what they were celebrating- these people celebrated without understanding the meaning of what they did. Hosanna means “save now”. These people saw Jesus as a savior and a king of Israel. They cried for salvation in hope of been saved from Roman captivity, hence their zest. Jesus didn’t come to save them from Roman captivity, hence his name “savior”- he came to save them from their sins. He didn’t come to set up a kingdom, hence his name “King of kings”- his kingdom is not of this earth. Easter has lost its meaning due to commercialization. We get excited, and the meaning of it is lost in translation.

“So he got up from the table and took off his robes. Picking up a linen towel, he tied it around his waist. Then he poured water into a washbasin and began to wash the disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel he was wearing.” John‬ ‭13:4-5‬ ‭

2. Leadership is by serving- Jesus just had press and publicity upon his entry into Jerusalem, yet when he finished eating with his disciples, whom he led. He demonstrated humility by washing their feet. He was also a teacher, but stripped himself of his garments and his prestige to do a job which was reserved for servants. During this time, it is perhaps time to redefine leadership in the spirit of Easter. It is about serving people.

“When the disciples who were with Jesus saw what was going to happen, they asked, “Shall we use our swords, Lord?” And one of them struck the High Priest’s slave and cut off his right ear. But Jesus said, “Enough of this!” He touched the man’s ear and healed him.” Luke‬ ‭22:49-51‬ ‭

3. It is a time of forgiveness– the last miracle of Jesus before his crucifixion was done on an enemy, who came to arrest Him. This week, we are also celebrating forgiveness by letting go of any grudge, hurt or bitterness. The essence of Christianity is love, and it often shows in our relations with humans when we can forgive at will.

“But we are able to see Jesus, Who was ranked lower than the angels for a little while, crowned with glory and honor because of His having suffered death, in order that by the grace (unmerited favor) of God [to us sinners] He might experience death for every individual person.” Hebrews‬ ‭2:9‬ ‭

4. Death is defeated- the good news out of this week’s celebration is, Jesus died so that we don’t have to die. Receiving Jesus into your life means He died for you, so that you don’t experience death, which in a biblical sense, is separation from God in the hereafter. His death abridged our relationship with God, and defeated the power of death. When a Christian dies, “though he is absent from the body, he is present in the Lord”. That to me, is good news!

So I hope in today’s reading, you have gained some context to the Easter season. Wish you a good week and a blessed upcoming new month.

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Dealing with Discouragement

“David and his men burst out in loud wails—wept and wept until they were exhausted with weeping. David’s two wives, Ahinoam of Jezreel and Abigail widow of Nabal of Carmel, had been taken prisoner along with the rest. And suddenly David was in even worse trouble. There was talk among the men, bitter over the loss of their families, of stoning him” ‭‭1 Samuel‬ ‭30:4-6‬ ‭

Hello and glad to come your way again. By now, nobody needs convincing that life is hard. There is nothing as painful as an unpredictable blow. Life can be a drag… at times.

This Bible verse is a picture of discouragement. Have you seen people (especially men in this context) weep till they are exhausted by their own weeping? Picture this in your mind’s eye.

There was a king called David. He and his men of war had come home to a ransacked place; their city in Ziklag was burned and their families were taken captive. The sorrow got so bad that the men who were with David wanted to kill him. They saw him as the blame for their misfortune. It can be very painful when you are in pain and people are plotting to kill you on top.

I take a lot of solace in this story, because you see one man’s decision that turned a discouraging and helpless situation to one of victory and hope. Please make time and read the whole chapter of I Samuel 30. I believe there lies a lesson for each reader today as we look at David’s resolve and what he did.

“…But David felt strengthened and encouraged in the LORD his God.” ‭‭1 Samuel‬ ‭30:6‬ ‭

1. His faith- David knew where to go when he was at the lowest of the low- his faith in God. I have two questions for you today: what is your faith in & where is your faith? We have all faced times which mirrored that of David’s or even worse, and what will keep us going is our faith life. For a long time, religion has been relegated to the doldrums of obscurity until last year when a pandemic hit, which hasn’t really gone away at the time of writing. A recent study shows that 67.8% of adult Americans are “Bible curious” meaning they want to learn more about scripture. The good thing about God is, He is merciful and ever loving to accommodate us if we will come to Him.

“David said to Abiathar the priest, “Bring me the holy vest.” Then David asked the LORD, “Should I chase the people who took our families? Will I catch them?” The LORD answered, “Chase them. You will catch them, and you will succeed in saving your families.”” 1 Samuel‬ ‭30:7-8‬

2. His prayer life– there is a popular book of the Bible known as Psalms which was authored by David. He wrote them mostly from his prayer times. Apart from been an intelligent leader, he also knew how to pray. That was what made him one of the most successful kings in the history of this world. Many see prayer as complicated, or you need to be some sort of guru to do that. The verse above was David’s prayer. It is that easy to pray. If you want to deal with discouragement, prayer must be in your armory. Let me leave you with this scripture to encourage you in Jeremiah 33:2-3, “This is GOD ’s Message, the God who made earth, made it livable and lasting, known everywhere as GOD: ‘Call to me and I will answer you. I’ll tell you marvelous and wondrous things that you could never figure out on your own.’”

So David and his 600 men set out, and they came to the brook Besor.” ‭‭1 Samuel‬ ‭30:9‬ ‭

3. Goodwill- I am talking about his friendly disposition here. Honestly, I get confused when I read this story, because I asked, “weren’t these the “attempted murderers?”” The same people that wanted to kill him are now lockstep with him on a mission. This teaches me a lot on emotional intelligence. A mistake we should avoid when going “through it” is to antagonize relationships. The angels we are praying for are already our relationships we have today. If you read further, David and his men showed kindness to an Egyptian boy lying in a field by feeding him, who led them to the place of the captors. May God bless us with good relationships and may we have the wisdom to sustain the relationships for keeps!

I hope as you read today, whatever phase you are in, can be dealt with depending on the decisions you make. May one man’s decision making inspire us to come out of any discouraging situation.

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Boldness II

“…The righteous are as bold as a lion”- Proverbs 28:1

Hello and glad to come your way once again. I am grateful to be alive in the second week of the second quarter of the year. How about you?

In an attempt to define boldness the last time, we had to look at what it isn’t first. Instead of giving a definition to the word, I want to use three words to paint a picture on that word.

The word bold is synonymous with trust, to be secure, and confidence. A bold person trusts, is secure and confident. Let us look into these three aspects.

“Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego answered and said to the king, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. If that is the case, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and He will deliver us from your hand, O king. But if not, let it be known to you, O king, that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up.”” Daniel‬ ‭3:16-18‬ ‭

1. Trust– the story in context is about the king of Babylon in Nebuchadnezzar issuing a decree to his subjects to worship his god made of gold. Nebuchadnezzar at that time, was one of the most feared kings. You better not stand up to him. Most kings of his day didn’t practice democracy, where other viewpoints are welcome. Look at the boldness of three Jewish slaves in captivity; Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-Nego, who decided not to bow down to the gold image, because they trusted their conviction and trusted that God will deliver them. They were also willing to die, if help never came because they trusted the cause they stood for. In this world of political correctness where cancel culture is so rampant, it becomes intimidating trusting your conviction, especially when it is not in sync with the masses and causes you to stand out. A bold person lives out his convictions because of trust.

“We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. We, however, will not boast beyond proper limits, but will confine our boasting to the sphere of service God himself has assigned to us, a sphere that also includes you.” 2 Corinthians‬ ‭10:12-13‬ ‭

2. Secure– the offshoot of boldness is security. From this text, we see some traits of security; refuse to play the comparison game, doesn’t overextend him or herself, stay within their strength. It takes boldness not to compare yourself with anybody. You can learn from them and take some cues, but not be competitive. People who play the comparison game tend to mask the inferiority complex they are dealing with. You won’t also overextend yourself by doing things you know, you aren’t good at. It takes a bold person to say, “I am not good at this, someone else is better suited for this…” When you are secure, you are okay with your limitations and focus on what is your core strength which is maximized to the best of your abilities to serve. It will help to know somethings: you are better than somebody, someone is also better than you, you have some uniques skills others don’t have and others have some unique skills you don’t have. This is the reality of life. If you don’t come to a place of security in your life, you will be in a rat race.

““Your Majesty,” David said, “I take care of my father’s sheep. Whenever a lion or a bear carries off a lamb, I go after it, attack it, and rescue the lamb. And if the lion or bear turns on me, I grab it by the throat and beat it to death. I have killed lions and bears, and I will do the same to this heathen Philistine, who has defied the army of the living God.” ‭‭1 Samuel‬ ‭17:34-36‬ ‭

3. Confidence– confidence has to do with believing in yourself and your abilities to get the job done. Now, the quote above is the sound of confidence. Bold people are confident, no two ways about it. They are also very realistic people who tend not to overestimate their strengths or abilities. Doing that makes you overconfident, which is a liability. There was an opponent of Israel named Goliath who was a champion and had a great track record of battles. With his tall achievements came with a gigantic frame in appearance. He tormented a whole nation every morning and evening for forty days, challenging anyone to a hand-to-hand combat. Everybody was scared and had the right to be, except David. If you read the story’s ending, he killed Goliath. People who are confident in their skill set deliver results.

This is my personal take on the subject of boldness. What is yours? I will like to know if you are able to do so in the comments section.

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Peace & Love



“…The righteous are as bold as a lion”- Proverbs 28:1

Hello, good people! Trust the weekend went well? Happy to come your way again. Today’s post should cause us to think on the true meaning of the word we will talk on- boldness!

What is it? Before we go into it, firstly let us look at what boldness is NOT.

1. Boldness is NOT rudeness- I don’t think you can put them in the same bracket. What do you think? There are some who don’t exercise discretion when talking about an issue to another in the name of boldness. Not exercising discretion can be termed unruly. Some too believe whatever comes to their minds have to be said in the name of “I am not afraid of anyone”. Anyone who uses that phrase is afraid in the first place. It is just a defense mechanism and a mask to cover what one truly fears.

2. Boldness is NOT foolhardily taking risks- boldness doesn’t mean you suspend reason and critical thinking before taking a risk. In life, we all have to embrace the chance of a risk take. Some people will just avoid taking a risk to go on the path of convenience and familiarity, which is also not good. However, don’t take a risk with reckless abandon in the name of, “I am bold”. What is your game plan? Do you have a strategy? Take a risk thoughtfully and also calculating “the risk of being in a risk”.

3. Boldness is NOT the refusal to acknowledge your fear- fear is natural and part of life. To deal with fear effectively as an emotion before it becomes a spirit controlling you, you have to acknowledge that thing that causes you fear, and decide to deal with it head on. It is just like, you see a nervous person getting ready to speak in front of an audience, and you ask, “are you nervous?”. To which he replies, “No!”. You see him sweating, panting uncontrollably, hands are shaking, knees trembling, sipping water by the minute and visiting the bathroom ever so often- it’s a telling sign. It is okay to admit, you are nervous then you can now look at ways to relax yourself. Honestly admitting your fear or inadequacy is a sign of great strength and integrity. I challenge you reading TODAY to face your fear(s) head on. Admit it, and then deal with it, rather than feigning strength (which is not there).

4. NOT all extroverts are bold- being an outgoing or an overly expressive person is not the same as exhibiting boldness. On the other hand, not all introverts too are timid. You can’t define boldness by looking at someone’s temperament, which can at times be misleading. Some of the most fearful people I have personally encountered are extroverts. Just look a bit further beyond the physical make up of a person.

We will continue this subject and attempt to define boldness. Until then, I just left you with this thought provoking piece, which will bring a different insight on boldness in your quiet time.

Till I come your way again…

Peace & Love