“Have a break, have a Kit Kat”

This is a popular catchphrase from a KitKat commercial. It portrays the message that you can’t enjoy the product till all things around you cease. To enjoy life, sometimes all things around you need to come to a stop- it is called a break

Life becomes beautiful and an experience when it is lived in balance. Some make the mistake of been at the two ends of the stick; work and work-extreme, play and play-extreme. You miss out! Don’t take your living or existence on this earth for granted. Life is multi layered and very multifaceted. Do something for once that will cause you to move out of the status quo; break the mould. Learn how to enjoy the breath of fresh air around you savoring another chance why it is good to be alive every waking morning

You are able to have a better perspective of life when you take a break. If you are a student, school goes on break- you have had your fill! If you are unemployed, this doesn’t apply to you because you are “cruising”, man. I am talking to people who work and that includes stay at home parents

If you don’t come apart, you will come apart

Meaning if you don’t take time to rest and call it a day at a point in your life, you will break down bodily, mentally and emotionally. The danger of grinding and going on and on can have some far reaching implications, negatively speaking.

When I talk of going on a break or holiday, I am not talking about traveling. If you have the money, then fine. If not, don’t put a strain on your finances. Holiday comes to an end and you are back to reality- paying your rent, utilities, going back to work… some people just go crazy and wild as if a break means the end of the world and living. I for one don’t understand why you should go for a holiday and come back broke.

A holiday to me means taking a break off work to rest and come back to what you were doing refreshed. Some people have the notion that the harder they grind without taking days off, that shows they are “hard workers”. Yes! My friend, you may be working hard but not working smart. In my opinion, hard work sometimes is overrated. I believe in working hard but also working smart- you need both to be productive

Anyway, let us consider some benefits of rest. Summer is almost over. Take advantage of that season for a break before it is too late

1. You become reflective

A break doesn’t mean you shut your mind off in relentless pursuit of fun. That is how many spend their break. They have no evaluation of what was done prior to the break so they don’t do better when they get back to the job. A break affords you the opportunity to look at what you did in the past to make any necessary adjustments- what were your past failures, past successes, strengths, weaknesses, what opportunities did you blow and what will you do if it comes your way again? I am not advocating for overthinking on your days off. That is also not a holiday either. I am just saying that whilst having fun, take a moment to be accountable

2. You become contemplative

You are able to enjoy the present which is a gift to us all. Once you go on a break, you can enjoy that walk you seldomly miss because of work, you are able to feel the beach sand in between your toes, go to the cinema or catch up on some leisure reading. I hear the youth using this expression, “stay woke”. When you “stay woke” in the present, you and I will have an appreciation for nature. Don’t feel guilty having fun on your day off. You deserve that break. It is okay not to answer every call, respond to every text message. Take a break off social media. Life can be good and fun sometimes when you are locked in the present

3. You become imaginary

Imaginary has to do with the future. When you evaluate your past, you now become better informed on what to do next once your holiday is over. Come back from your holiday a better person mentally- your mental focus should be sharper. Is it really a holiday when I come back more sluggish? Come back from your holiday a better person bodily- resting rejuvenates the body cells and prevents it from breaking down. Come back from your holiday a better person emotionally- what is the point coming back bitter and STILL holding on to past unforgivable experiences? Above all, come back better like a well oiled machine for a high powered performance at what you do in your work

Bless yourself with a holiday. Let that gift be your personal investment to yourself and with your loved ones you will take it with

Till I come your way again

Peace & Love

Overcoming when overwhelmed

Overwhelm means to overcome completely in mind and emotions to the point that you can’t think but panic

We have all been in situations like that- it seems like, “I will never get around this, I must as well die”. I remember when I received a phone call one Friday morning in November 2016 that my father had passed away. A thousand thoughts raced through my mind at once. Each and every one of us can relate to an overwhelming experience in life. As far as we live in life, we will not escape these moments or experiences so we might as well get informed and armed on how to deal with them

“I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have [perfect] peace and confidence. In the world you have tribulation and trials and distress and frustration; but be of good cheer [take courage; be confident, certain, undaunted]! For I have overcome the world. [I have deprived it of power to harm you and have conquered it for you.]” John‬ ‭16:33‬ ‭AMPC‬‬

The source of some troubles that causes us to be overwhelmed is not the devil but it is just living in this world. Stuff happens when you are living- unexpected deaths of loved ones and family, miscarriage of a child you were expecting, failed an exam, gone bankrupt, business folding up, economy crashing, a loved one faced with terminal illness, you facing a life threatening disease unexpectedly, made redundant in your firm… it’s all part of life and living. In the passage above, we are admonished that troubles and hard times will and must happen- it is an appointment that we all do not look forward to. I hate to be the bearer of bad news that difficult times are part of life. Howbeit it doesn’t mean you should live life expecting a bad turn or a negative outcome. Nay! What I am saying is when hard times creep up on you unaware, it is not a phenomenon- it is just life

How do we deal with overwhelming situations? The thing you should know is never to go in with your strength. Man is intelligent- a specie unmatched in wonder and a total phenomenon but man was not designed to go through life’s troubles alone depending on his wits and will power. Life becomes bearable when we rely on Jesus who has promised us, in him we have peace. Like, I wrote earlier about my father’s passing. It was tough but I said to myself, “Lord I rely on your strength in this and place my trust in you. May I never lose my peace”. Peace was needed to think clearly on what the next steps should be, planning a funeral, sitting down with the family amongst many more. Asides that, you should be able to think clearly and analytically when emotions are high. Peace was indeed needed. Say a simple prayer that “Lord I need you in this time of my life when things are pear shaped”. I promise you, he will come through for you. He will not deny you help! He will not reject you! He will save you and he will deliver you

Overwhelming situations affects how we think and how we feel. That is why we need the peace of God that guards our minds and hearts not to go bonkers. That comes as a result of trusting Jesus. The world can’t offer you the peace you so desperately look for, money and fame can’t either! Just Friday, I read about Elon Musk’s emotional outburst in an interview which now caused his company to lose some billions in the stock exchange. He is overwhelmed and crying for help! I hope we don’t ignore that cry until it is too late. A billionaire CEO of Tesla Cars- I thought to myself he is living it but Friday shattered that illusion. Peace in our hearts and minds will grant us the serenity and the courage to go through any fire

May I pray with you, reader!

I pray for anyone reading this that may your loving peace encompass around them; guarding their hearts and minds. Lord reveal yourself to each reader this day at their various junctions of their lives! I pray for those who want to give up, throw in the towel and quit. Let your love assure them that it will be alright. Out of this, may people commit to serving you and knowing of a truth you are God indeed. I thank you that every reader has the upper hand over every overwhelming experience in Jesus name. Amen

Till I come your way again

Peace & Love

What a friend we have in Jesus

All our sins and griefs to bear

What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer

O! What peace we often forfeit?

O! What needless grief we bear?

Why? Because we do not carry everything to God in prayer

Joseph M Scriven 1855

Shades of Wisdom III

Today, let us wrap up on shades of wisdom. Over the past couple of weeks, we are drawing a portrait of what it truly means to be wise. We have looked at certain qualities which embodies that- pure, peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and of good fruits. Let us consider this scripture passage as our reference point to draw out some truths

“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” James‬ ‭3:13-18‬

7. Without partiality

Partiality means being prejudice or bias. People who are like that are not free and fair. They don’t believe in ethics. Wise people are not partial or do partisan politics. Partiality knows no kinfolk, friends, race, politics, prestige & honor. They are interested primarily in justice and fairness. It is so sad that some will only treat rich people preferentially but not the poor. Some will treat the educated with so much class and honor but not the semi literate or illiterate. Some whites treat whites better but not blacks because of color, and some blacks the same. Wise people are not partial. Being free and fair is not the most popular thing to do but it is just right. It will not be a trend or nice to dismiss an office colleague who is your golfing partner and friend because he had embezzled funds but that is the right thing to do. Partial people have weak moral grounds and can easily be bought by money. Say no to impartiality this week

8. Without hypocrisy

Wise people are not hypocrites. What they say in your absence is what they will say to your face! Too many weak leaders do we have today who have resorted to gossiping and backbiting whilst not confronting the issue or the person at hand. It is a sad sight and common occurrence among leaders today. People in general also like to do that in the name of political correctness, in the name of being “wise” but there is nothing wise about gossiping behind someone’s back in the first place. The opposite of hypocrisy is unfeigned or sincere. May we be sincere with our remarks, compliments and comments. Don’t comment on how nice the dress is to the person then two hours later, in the person’s absence, you pick up the phone to talk to your friend & trash the person’s dress. Wise people are sincere! If what you say about your friend in his or her absence can’t be said in his or her presence, it is gossip. It means you are not sincere which is not a quality of wisdom

9. Righteous

Righteousness was a legal term in the Jewish times meaning acquittal or not declared guilty. It also carries the meaning of rightness and integrity. Integrity means your thoughts, speech and actions are in alignment or integrated. That is integrity. In school, I did Math and one of the subjects taught was integer- where you get the word integrity. Basically a number divisible by 2 was considered a whole number (integer). That was one of the many facets of the topic. Integrity also means wholeness. One sign of a man or woman of integrity is he can be trusted. He or she is also reliable! Are we trusted or reliable? Do you follow through on your promise? During election time, one of the buzz words of every politician is integrity… it should not just be a buzz word, but a doing word. Many are interested in talking about integrity than doing integrity

Thank you for coming along this journey with me as we explored on wisdom. I will love to also read your take on what you took home and what resonated with you? May we indeed be people of wisdom

“Wisdom is supreme — so get wisdom. And whatever else you get, get understanding. Cherish her, and she will exalt you; if you embrace her, she will honor you. She will place a garland of favor on your head; she will give you a crown of beauty.”” Proverbs‬ ‭4:7-9‬ ‭CSB‬‬

May our lives be exalted, honored, favored and beautiful!

Till I come your way again

Peace & Love

Shades of Wisdom II

“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” James‬ ‭3:13-18‬

This Bible passage has been our point of reference on what wisdom is like. So far, we have looked at three features- pure, peaceable and gentle. Today, let us focus on some more

4. Willing to yield

This quality of yielding paints the picture of one who submits to authority. Too many people brag about being wise because they are accountable to no one or submit to no authority. That is a misnomer. Submission paints the picture of power under control or restraint. It takes a strong person and even so, a wise person to submit. Rebels and renegades have an underlying factor of fear- the fear of being taken advantage of, hence their actions of rebellion. Submissiveness doesn’t mean you are a dummy, it simply means you give permission for one to lead and you follow his mission. How do you relate to your supervisor at work, teacher at school, the policeman or government appointed delegates? This speaks a lot about your wisdom. This quality of willing to yield also talks about not being stubborn or hard up on issues. You easily let them slide for the sake of peace. Most cases or issues are prolonged because of stubbornness.

5. Full of mercy

A wise person is full of mercy and merciful. A merciful person is one that gives chances when people err. May I submit that being merciful & being taken a fool of are not the same. A merciful person is in the know and quite enlightened about what he is doing extending one another chance whilst the latter is naive, may not know the facts of the story giving people the opportunity to make a buck out of him. Being merciful also means you are compassionate. Where is your wisdom if you have no compassion?

6. Full of good fruits

Good fruits here is relative and in context of the Bible. In the Bible, the term fruit is used in various instances like godly character with its traits of love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self control. Our passage above terms righteousness as a fruit. Good speech is also a fruit. The short of it all is a wise person is fruitful. You can’t proclaim to be wise yet barren! You have no works or fruits to show forth for. It is not okay to just talk a good game but play one. A wise man doesn’t just wax eloquent on issues of justice and equity but his life and actions embody that quality too. A wise man is a doer. He has fruits or works to show forth when the rubber meets the road

May we be submissive, merciful and fruitful this week. By these, we can safely say we are on the pathway of wisdom

“Wisdom is justified of her children”- Jesus

Till I come your way again…

Peace & Love

Shades of Wisdom

In our last post, we looked at wisdom- what it is not, what it is and how to get wisdom. In the subsequent posts, let us look at a portrait of what wisdom truly is

I will use this verse as our point of reference on this subject

“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” James‬ ‭3:13-18‬ ‭

If you look closely into this verse, it contrasts between earthly and godly wisdom. The differences lies in the root (source) and fruits (doings). We establish the fact in our last post that God is the source and giver of wisdom so walking in godly wisdom is the highest form and kind

Follow me on this journey as we look at the features of true wisdom.

1. It is pure

Pure in this sense means clean or undefiled. In October to November 2017, there were 77 high powered personalities and celebrities involved in sex scandals and the like which shook Hollywood and the world which as a result has given birth to the #metoo campaign. As I am writing now, I don’t know the number of cases as it has been too much to keep up with. When we are pure, it affects our view point and how we think. Men won’t see females as sex objects and women on the other hand will not see men as money bags or money magnets that can be exploited and then dump aside. The first sign of true wisdom comes to test in how you see things or your thoughts. If your thoughts are impure, definitely your actions will be too. Clean also means not believing in swindling people and thinking of how to make a fast buck on them. Too many people these days have ulterior motives why they want to be your friend

2. It is peaceable

A wise man is a proponent and believer in all things peaceful. One of the biggest tests of your wisdom will show in conflicts and disagreements. Do you want to be right? Sometimes our insistence on being right can prolong some conflicts to the point that the relationship is irreparable after the dust has settled. I used to be that kind- very rigid and stubborn till I had my way and had the last word. It is not wise to live this way. Thank God, I changed! It will take peace for a marriage to make it past year one or keep certain friendships. I have come to realize as I am growing in this life, you don’t have to always be right, for the sake of peace let it be even if you become the weaker link. That is true wisdom. Before Nelson Mandela left prison he said “As I stand before the door to my freedom, I realise that if I do not leave my pain, anger and bitterness behind me, I will still be in prison”.

He had inner peace and it showed in his peaceful dealings with apartheid and how he virtually became the father of Africa and an epitome of leadership. Why? Because he believed in all things peaceful. When you have the option for peace, why war and strife? It will take inner peace for our actions to be peaceful and peaceable. Peaceful people easily forgive and don’t harbor grudges. Please settle any grudge you have this week. It will speak well of you that you are operating in a superior kind of wisdom. Being right all the time is not wisdom, rather be kind!

3. It is gentle

Gentle has to do with your disposition in life especially when you are hard pressed. Today, society’s definition of gentle pertaining to the men lies in appearance that is how you are dressed and perhaps, manners. It goes beyond that. Do you lose it when you go through pain and painful experiences? Are you easily aggravated? Today I had a moment when I almost lost it when writing this article. I use the WordPress app on either my iPhone or iPad for writing. So while on my iPad today, I opened some browsers for some fact checks and when I went back to the app, everything I had written was erased just like that! The painful thing is I was at the end signing off… I “stewed” for a bit, wanted to forget about writing and do it next week cos I had to take a shower and head off to work. In that moment, I just prayed, cooled off & rewrote. As I write, I am sitting in the parking lot of my work and I am not late either. In fact do have bags of time. What helped? Been gentle in the face of aggravation. Things that work us all up are really no big deal! Honestly, blowing up exaggerates things. The problem will not be what it seems to be. Let us take our time and have a gentle disposition which will help in the long run

Let us all walk in true wisdom by being pure. Purity starts with how you think, your viewpoint. It will shape your actions. Decide to see the “good” in most things. Let us develop inner peace. Someone will ask, “how do I develop inner peace?”. Others will suggest eastern meditation, yoga… For me, I develop inner peace by either praying or meditating on God’s promises in the Bible. Finally, let us have a gentle disposition to how we react when we are hard pressed. It is a choice. You can help how you react to situations because you are a free moral agent

Till I come your way again…

Peace & Love

Wisdom

“Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding. Exalt her, and she will promote you; She will bring you honor, when you embrace her. She will place on your head an ornament of grace; A crown of glory she will deliver to you.”” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4:7-9‬

In this scripture passage; wisdom promotes, brings honor, makes you graceful and an authority. The Bible is admonishing us this day to get wisdom because it is the principal [beginning, first, chief & choice] thing

The question is how do we get it? Before that, let us attempt to define wisdom by knowing what it is NOT in the first place. I believe we confuse wisdom with knowledge; say, a clever man with great oratorial skills oozing with so much charisma can easily be deemed wise but the appropriate word should be he is knowledgeable. The fact that you are such a great charismatic talker doesn’t necessarily mean you have wisdom

I remember in my childhood, my mother and her friend drove to this particular doctor who was a senior at a faculty of a teaching hospital. We arrived in front of his house sitting in the car then he came out; a very disheveled man with unkept finger & toenails (was wearing slippers), unkept hair, his clothes looked dirty then his dental formula & teeth looked bad BUT he was a doctor- a senior at a faculty. Why do I use this example? Most of us are like “smoking doctors”. We have knowledge but it doesn’t benefit us because we don’t apply it

What is wisdom then? It is the intelligent application of knowledge you understand to your advantage. The key word for me is application. I see wisdom in three phases; you get knowledge which is information, then understanding which is comprehension and then application of the knowledge you understand- wisdom

Many know things or are very informative. They can talk a good game but bad at taking their own advice. They are like car salesmen (no offense). Sometimes you can talk to a dealer and he will give you all the specs of an Audi convincing you to buy it till you ask him, “so what car do you drive?” Then he will tell you, “erm, a Honda”. Such a contradiction, it always makes me laugh. Why don’t you drive the product you are selling me if you believe in it so much? Good to have knowledge, all the better to get understanding but best to practice and apply! This is how we enter into the realm of wisdom.

Now how do we get it? Consider this scripture please for our attention

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding”. Proverbs‬ ‭9:10‬

So fearing God is the first step to wisdom. What does it mean to fear God? It means to develop reverence and respect to and towards God. That is honor. When you honor a person, it shows in your time with the person and how you value his opinions and thoughts concerning a matter. Well, when we honor God, we make time for him to develop a relationship. We also value his ideals and ideas. We live by his principles- some of which are love, justice, righteousness, mercy, fairness…

The second step is to pray for wisdom

“If any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God [Who gives] to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it will be given him.” James‬ ‭1:5‬ ‭AMPC‬‬

Each and every waking morning, we need wisdom. Wisdom is like fuel in a car. You need many refills if the car will perform at its optimum capacity. Likewise, so do we! We live in this complex scenario called life. You never know its twists and turns hence the need to walk in this life daily with wisdom. May this scripture give you much solace to call on Him, the giver of wisdom

I could give more but let me end with this last one

“Hear, O children, the instruction of a father, And pay attention [and be willing to learn] so that you may gain understanding and intelligent discernment.” PROVERBS‬ ‭4:1‬ ‭AMP‬‬

Listening to a father here represents the old and experienced. There are people who have gone ahead of us, seen more than us and seen farther! Their perspective of and on life is deeper as a result of experience. It will do us a great favor to listen, interact and apply discretionally what they tell us. In today’s world, experience is downplayed in favor of being innovative, smart and youthful. How has that helped society? Wisdom from an experienced man is like fine wine. The older in the cellar, the better it taste. Never despise old men or women’s wisdom because they can’t operate our current electronic gadgets.

May wisdom be our portion daily. In my next series of posts, let us look at a portrait of wisdom

Till I come your way again…

Peace & Love

Recess over, class in session

The FIFA World Cup in Moscow ended last night with France deservingly the champions. It has been an interesting tournament. So many shocks; top dogs defeated by underdogs, a bit of drama and a lot of sensational plays. Well done to Russia too for excellently hosting the event

It’s over now and we knew the last one standing last night as champions. Sports is very leisurely in nature and tends to wind us down but sometimes in our leisurely moments, certain truths can’t help but to be noticed. I enjoyed the tournament as a sports fan even though my teams I tipped didn’t make it but at least I took some pointers which I will share just a few with you

1. Never be proud. Always stay humble

Nikola Kalinić didn’t start in the first game of the tournament for his national team, Croatia against Nigeria. With five minutes left to play, he was asked to come on but protested because he didn’t start the match. Well, he was an integral part in Croatia’s qualifying series to the World Cup and also a decent player for AC Milan in Italy, where he plays professionally. He saw himself as big time but the coach didn’t allow him to get too big for his britches so he had to send him home. It was a risky move because that meant Croatia were not going to advance in the tournament. Yesterday, the last two teams playing for the Cup were France and Croatia without Kalinić. Always stay humble and never see your self as indispensable. The truth is we all are dispensable. Someone can do what you are doing far better than you. Never get too big or you will find this shocking revelation at your expense

2. Limit distractions

The England National Team really did well to my surprise. Not just me, but most wouldn’t tip England to advance that far in most tournaments. Harry Kane, the England captain became the star of the team scoring six goals to win the Golden Boot Award (top scorer in the tournament). Howbeit, I couldn’t help but notice Kane’s statement about him and the team overall staying off social media because it affected their performance in the Euro 2016 tournament in France where they had such a dismal performance. Limit distractions if you want to be effective in life. Kane had the same potential he displayed this year two years ago but distractions got the better of him and his performance which affected the team overall

3. Be welcoming and hospitable

France, the current winners have 15 out of the 22 players with African roots. This speaks to me about the tolerance of France in their race relations and how they embrace multiculturalism and diversity. Can we all learn how to get along irrespective of our accents, origins, faith and so on? Let us learn to treat everyone with fairness, respect and decency

“Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing it.” Hebrews‬ ‭13:2‬ ‭NASB‬‬

This scripture really applies to France’s success last night. The strangers they entertained and received with open arms have become their angels in helping them win. Let us respect humanity. Period!

4. Support somebody

Most teams performed well not just because of team talent or the technical prowess of its coaching system BUT ALSO THE FANS. In sports, the phrase, “home” and “away” makes a lot of difference because of the fan base and support. Personally, I think Russia did well partly because of their fans. Teams that have won in the past, check their fan base. They know how to rally support and boost morale of their team. This week, be an encourager and say nice words which you mean from your heart. Affirm someone, be a fan. These seemingly, small actions go a long way in the run. Let us be each other’s keeper

These are the musings of a soccer fan’s lessons on the game he loves

Till I come your way again…

Peace & Love