“But I have intelligence as well as you; I am not inferior to you. And who does not know such things as these?” Job 12:3
In life, there is nothing more painful than been doubted by people who you call your friends and believe the worst for you, when you are going through a rough patch. That was Job’s story.
This is a biblical account of a wealthy man who lost his wealth, his business, his health and his ten kids, save his wife. This was really a trying time. At a point, his wife told him to abandon his faith and curse his God in whom he trust for their unfortunate plight; he didn’t. Everybody had abandoned him except three of his friends who came to console him. They were Eliphaz, Bildad and Zophar.
You never know your loved ones and friends till “you are going through it”. Sometimes problems can be a blessing in disguise because it sifts the genuine from the fake real quick like our friends. These three initially did well to respond when their friend was in insufferable pain, but when you read the story, it would have been better if they didn’t come. They started to diagnose his problems and assume why he was going through such hardships. That is a kick in the gut.
Eliphaz accused Job of sinning that was why he was suffering, which wasn’t the case. His two other friends didn’t help matters either and urged him to repent to God if he had truly sinned, so that this unfortunate episode in his life could end sooner. This is what brings us to today’s topic: inferiority complex.
What is it? It is the feeling of being inferior. Such a state produces one to be either reticent or overly aggressive. Job was a wealthy man and an important man in society with an elevated status. People who come from such backgrounds tend to be very confident, most of the time. So I am very sure he was. But as time went on, the hardships in life and the miserable comfort he received from his friends started to make him feel inferior about himself.
Most times, it is said people with certain temperaments like a phlegmatic can easily suffer from inferiority complex. However, there are external factors that can trigger that like having people who don’t believe in you and always talk down at you. Most people who feel inferior about themselves, largely has to do with their company. Either, they had unsupportive parents who abused them, or the wrong company of friends who clowned them and made them the butt of every cruel joke. People like that tend to doubt themselves greatly, doubt their abilities and capabilities, and expect the worst out of themselves and for themselves.
Job was feeling inferior and it made him blurt out the words which is our quote for today. Sometimes, the best way to deal with inferiority complex is to speak out for yourself, and then change your circle of association. Your circle of association will form your environment and atmosphere.
As we enter a new month, take a good look at people you call “friends”. Are they really one? Do they support your dreams? Are they genuinely happy for you? Do they seek your welfare? Do they talk down at you in order to feel good about themselves? How do they affect your mood when you see them? Look at yourself: are you docile or overly aggressive? It could be a sign to end those friendships. Until then, you will walk in self pity and self doubt for the rest of your life. How long do you think you can do that?
People with an inferiority complex always put a ceiling on themselves. It is painful to watch when you see a brilliant person who believes he is so stupid and dumb, or to see a beautiful lady who believes she is ugly. May our external factors like our company create the right vibe for us to fully express ourselves to the best of our abilities. Job spoke out! What will you do?
Blessed to come your way again with another blog post. Let me know if this ministered to you. Looking forward to reading your comments as always.
Have a blessed upcoming month!
Till, I come your way again…
Peace & Love