Talents

Yesterday, I had a chat with a friend and was telling him how gifted he was at making people feel welcome, easily friendly and how good he was at networking. I told him that was a gift. He looked at me shocked and was like, “it is no big deal”

I saw a problem and will like to address it in today’s post. Many think of their talents or gifts as “no big deal”. Some too think it is just part of their natural makeup so they assume everybody else have it or operate like that

In this post, my objective is to let you know everybody walking on this earth has at least one gift. It is said we are 7.6 billion people today. Two things you should know: none of us have the same fingerprint and everyone, yes! I mean everyone is talented or gifted. I will be using the words “gift” & “talent” synonymously since they are the same

I just checked my dictionary app on my phone for talent and saw nine definitions but will go with the first one as “a special natural ability or aptitude”. My question to you this morning as I write is what is your natural ability? What do you do with so much ease & no supervision? Please pay attention to it

“So I ask you to make full use of the gift God gave you when I placed my hands on you. Use it well.” 2 Timothy‬ ‭1:6‬ ‭CEV‬‬

The context of this story was Paul, a mentor to Timothy was instructing him on how to be a good pastor over the church he had established. Throughout history, they had walked together and for the first time he will be there alone and also at the helm of affairs- pastoring a church in Paul’s absence. It must have been very daunting and intimidating for him. Paul had to write to tell him to make full use of his gift God has given. It was likely Timothy had certain gift(s) which were compatible with his trade in pastoring which he didn’t know

I see problems or barriers to why people don’t use their gifts. The first thing is they don’t know. This is where a mentor comes in. One of the roles of a mentor is to point you in the direction of your strongest tendency to develop. May I suggest everybody needs a mentor- someone ahead of you in your field to look up to for experience, tutelage and guidance among many. I am very sure Paul had seen Timothy do some things with ease, displayed certain qualities and habits which made Paul concluded “he is gifted”. A good mentor will encourage and give you a platform to shine on to display your talents. A bad mentor will see you as his or her rival in competition and will do everything to erode your confidence in yourself and your gifting by abusing you. Please, with caution, be very discriminate, picky and discerning in your choice of a mentor

The second thing is people despise what they have. They don’t consider it a gift. We are gifted in many ways and expressions. I don’t have to have the same gift as yours. The problem arises when we compare our gifts with our neighbor’s. I have seen people say things like, “it’s only cooking”. They will respect their gift, say, if it was public speaking. Never label a gift big or small, superior or inferior, important or unimportant. What you should know is: Every gift is God given. It pains me time and time again to see people despise their gifts because they don’t deem it as important or will make one’s life count by comparing it to others

The third barrier is shyness. Some have discovered their talent but are just too timid to express their gifting or do anything about it. Do you fall into that category? You may be a gifted writer but fear writing because of readership, a great cook but fear your dishes will not be patronized, a gifted orator but fear you won’t make sense when you speak and will not have an audience, a great and an extraordinary sweeper but fear the backlash and mockery of calling it a gift. Please, why are you reading my blog instead of me reading yours? So are you going to die with all this talent not giving it expression? How long are you going to be timid? The root to shyness is fear. Fearful people are timid! The antidote to shyness is the love of God. The love of God causes you to be bold and rise above limitations. I pray for you as you read this article that may you experience THIS LOVE to break free out of the confines of timidity

Please take your talent seriously. Let your gift so shine to bring glory to God! Let your gift so shine that you make one’s life count! Let it so shine that you can be a blessing to humanity. It is so gratifying to know you are making a life better by your gift of service

Till we meet again…

Peace & Love

Overcoming worry


The last post on worry dealt with its stress and disadvantages. There is nothing positive or good on worry to write home about. Today, let us see how we can overcome worry. As human beings, the tendency to worry will always be there but we can overcome the habit of worrying

Some people worry for worry’s sake, others; because of a general anxiety disorder. I don’t know which category you fall into, I came as a messneger of good news in this post to publish there is help, hope and healing. Please join me as we go through some time tested truths

1. Seeking God

“Instead, be concerned above everything else with the Kingdom of God and with what he requires of you, and he will provide you with all these other things.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭6:33‬ ‭GNB‬‬

Now you may ask what does that mean? It means to develop a relationship with God. How do you develop one with Him? Well, through Jesus Christ who declared, “he is the way…” He boldly declared that when on earth and what way he is unto? The way is unto God. Man has an innate desire to go on a spiritual journey to connect with any deity or higher power. Some have realized the need to connect to God. The problem is many don’t know the way to God and try many man made methods which in the end makes them doubt the very existence of God. I tell you what is natural- looking for God is; because no matter how famous and wealthy you become, that hole will never be filled until God has taken that very place in your life. Being an atheist is not natural- it has never been proven scientifically that one can be. It normally comes out of our frustration of seeking for a higher power, trying to make sense of a thing particularly certain issues on this earth that will drive many to that decision. An atheist view is a choice not a gene

“Jesus said to him, “ I am the [only] Way [to God] and the [real] Truth and the [real] Life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.” ‭‭JOHN‬ ‭14:6‬ ‭AMP‬‬

The way to seek God is through Jesus. He is the only way- I don’t believe in religious brainwashing nor to argue out facts when it comes to a matter of faith or belief. However, I wanted to point out more than a fact which is truth from the world’s best selling book of all time in the Bible. Facts are subjective and can also be relative. Facts can be based on appearances which can be a bit misleading. Truth on the other hand is far more superior to fact. It is not based on any of what you read on facts some seconds ago but hard evidence of a reality. So you might be on a spiritual quest reading this; searching for answers, seeking God, wanting some inner peace and serenity. I have good news- look no further than unto Jesus- who is the only way to God. I am open to questions on this.

Worry tends to come mostly from ‘things’ we are looking for. What is your ‘thing’? You will have your ‘thing’ or ‘things’ when a relationship with God is formed. That deals with worry to the root. Can you imagine having a trustworthy friend who has got your back? It causes you to have some peace knowing someone is vouching for you. May I tell you something? God is much more than that! Come to him through Jesus and find out the hard evidence for yourself

As you become closer with God, the offspring of that relationship is your value system will change- you will begin to esteem the things that he esteems

“No, the LORD has told us what is good. What he requires of us is this: to do what is just, to show constant love, and to live in humble fellowship with our God.” ‭‭Micah‬ ‭6:8‬ ‭GNB‬‬

Some of his requirements are doing what is right- justice, walking in love and in fellowship with God. How do you have fellowship with God? Through prayer and reading the Bible. Now there are many downloadable Bible apps which are free. Listening to audio Bible is a great way of connecting to God and having fellowship

2. Planning

“Planning ahead will protect you, and understanding will guard you.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭2:11‬ ‭ERV‬‬

Planning will protect you from anxiety and worry. Most therapists who deal with stress management issues and anxiety disorders in their patients recommend living life by design and been intentional- that means you will have a schedule or a plan, have the discipline to stick to and through it. The bare reality is people who are worried often have disorganized thoughts and no calendar nor do they even value how time is used

If we live life by default- ‘anything kinda goes’ attitude; we will always live life on the edge which is not the best if we want to live a life of maximum impact and results. So please believe in the power of the pen and a notebook. Believe in solitude and times of quietness because it is in the womb of quietness that creativity is conceived. Sit and write down some goals for today, this week and for the month. We are almost through the first half of the year. Time waits for no man! If you are tech savvy, then apps like Evernote are highly recommended.

May you live a life of constantly overcomiing worry so that you can soar to new heights and function at your most optimum capacity. Please carefully consider these two truths and apply them to see results. You will thank me later

Till I come your way again…

Peace & Love

A cry not loud enough


This weekend, I sat in the parking lot of a grocery store waiting for my wife whilst so many thoughts were racing through my mind and one of them was on the topic of suicide- a very sensitive topic that needs to be treated with tact, love & care

Although, my post today should have dealt with overcoming worry. Wanted to shelve that for another time and deal with this subject in its immediacy. The world is still reeling at the shock deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain because of the nature of their deaths. I think we all know by now in this life, death is inevitable but sometimes what makes us sad is in the manner which it occurred.

Suicide doesn’t play no partisan politics- the rich and the famous, the talented, young or old, male or female, black or white, spiritual or atheist, achiever or underachiever; they all fall prey in its wake. Suicide doesn’t look at status

In the country I live, it is said to be the second leading cause of death for young people aged 15 to 24 and the third leading cause of death between the ages of 10 and 14. According to American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP), there are nearly 45,000 suicides every year in the US alone. That is some scaring, bone chilling statistics

I am not an expert on this topic but wanted to throw light on it as a concerned person in my post today. I thought of this story in the Bible as my point of reference

“But he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness and came and sat down under a broom tree. And he asked that he might die, saying, “It is enough; now, O Lord, take away my life, for I am no better than my fathers.”” ‭‭1 Kings‬ ‭19:4‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Now this was the story of Elijah, a prophet who had a major victory in his life when he went into a showdown with 450 prophets of Baal about whose god was worthy of worship- he won when God came on the scene and Elijah killed all 450. You can read more of that in the preceding chapter- 1 Kings 18. After such a great victory which must have been gratifying to him personally, the queen of his country; Jezebel issued a threat to him seeking his life. He became a fugitive on the run and while on his journey exhausted, he lamented these words, “take away my life”

The first step to overcoming suicidal thoughts and tendencies is to be honest with your feelings and emotions. I had an enlightening conversation with my wife this past weekend on if suicide victims are honest with their emotions? We unanimously came to a conclusion they are not. Please, it is okay if you feel weak and feel like dying. Face your emotions and don’t suppress them thinking it is alright and you can deal with it alone. That is the lie suicide whispers: “you can deal with it alone, don’t tell anybody to be judged funny”. Most victims never open up and mask their pain with fame, fortune, over working and still feel empty. The few that come forward were judged funny which proved their suspicions right. Please we should never dismiss or start giving solutions away without empathy when one approaches us. Let us be each other’s neighbor and keeper by empathizing first

Secondly, believe in the power of prayer and talking to God. Let that be your outlet to vent and cry out for help as Elijah did. After this ‘rant’, God answered him and he didn’t kill himself. He didn’t submit to the suicidal thoughts and tendencies. Prayer is a powerful and effective tool in communicating to God about your deficiencies, weaknesses and who you really are without being judged by a loving God who will come through for you

““This is GOD ’s Message, the God who made earth, made it livable and lasting, known everywhere as GOD: ‘Call to me and I will answer you. I’ll tell you marvelous and wondrous things that you could never figure out on your own.’” Jeremiah‬ ‭33:2-3‬ MSG

Let this verse serve as a hope to pray. Today I am campaigning and advocating for prayer to God to anyone reading and that is EVERYONE. I cry out aloud “Believe in the power of praying!”. I hope my cry is loud enough to arrest your attention

Lastly, please talk to a professional and seek help. Wherever you live or are has skilled professionals adept at the subject of suicide and it will do a great deal of help.

Today’s post is dedicated to the families of suicide victims. I also wrote this to you, reader if you are struggling. Please get help and don’t be another statistic. You are greatly loved and cherished

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Till I come your way again

Peace & Love

NB:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

suicidepreventionlifeline.org

The stress of worrying

“Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?” Matthew‬ ‭6:27‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Worry is like a rocking chair”, said an old wise man, “it gives you something to do but takes you nowhere”. Worry is stressful and won’t let you maximize the best out of life.

Jesus threw a question to his audience of the day if worry could add a single moment to their lives? or as other versions put it “which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?”

‭You see, worry won’t add a single moment to our lives or cause an inch of growth to our stature or height. There is not even one single benefit attached to worrying. Worrying is a natural tendency associated with human beings. Every human being will have the propensity to worry. May I challenge you that just because it is natural doesn’t mean it should be okay or you settle with it especially if it can be at the expense of your very life

Permit me to talk about the devastating effects of worrying and I will step out of your way

1. Worry makes you miss the moment

Worry makes you preoccupied and causes you to miss opportunities that are nearby to seize. Everybody in his or life will be gifted with defining moments. The difference between successful and the unsuccessful ones are those who have the ability to prospect and discern those times. You need a clear mind to think and seize moments that may come unfortunately once (maybe) in a lifetime. Sometimes, when defining moments happen after you have missed the first (or second), you will not be as strong, active & resourceful to grab it even though you recognize it. In our times of strength, when we have vigor now; with both hands, grab and seize the moment that comes your way. Worry makes you have a cluttered mind therefore you will see EVERY DAY AS ANOTHER DAY. By the way, every day is not another day, some days are special and you will be a complainer. Worried people whine

“But the Lord replied to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered and anxious about so many things;” LUKE‬ ‭10:41‬ ‭AMP‬‬

Martha had the opportunity to sit at the feet of the greatest teacher of her day in Jesus. Imagine the person you respect in your field has the opportunity to sit down one on one with you. Will you seize it or let it slip? Martha let hers slip at that very moment and complained of her sister, Mary to Jesus that she had left all the kitchen chores for her. Jesus wasn’t against kitchen chores or attending to your guest but from the spirit she spoke from. She spoke out of worry. She was a worried person hence her complaining attitude

2. Worry gives you a sad countenance

“Worry is a heavy burden, but a kind word always brings cheer.” Proverbs‬ ‭12:25‬ ‭CEV‬‬

Worry weighs like a heavy burden on your emotions- you are sad, feel hopeless and negative. People who worry can’t keep friends and wonder why they have no long lasting relationships. Worried spouses can be burdensome in a marriage. They are worse than Inspector Columbo. Everything calls for investigation under their suspicious bias. People who worry cry at the least thing and burst out in uncontrollable anger. They are very unpredictable, emotionally speaking. People like that, you just tiptoe around them in a relationship wondering if he or she is in a good mood today. That in itself is exhausting. Just this weekend, I read on the news about an actor who was fired because he was abusive on set, made his female colleagues cry on set, complain about everything & then there was a tape of his outburst which I saw on YouTube. As talented as he was, he lost his job because he couldn’t keep a lid on his emotions- the root of all that is he is worried. Worry is indeed a heavy burden

3. Worry makes you sleepless

“you will rest without a worry and sleep soundly.” Proverbs‬ ‭3:24‬ ‭CEV‬‬

Worry will destroy your sleep pattern- a dangerous way to live on earth. As humans, it is important we have a good night’s rest to rejuvenate and get ready for the next day. When worry is on you like a burden, that time of rest and rejuvenation will become a period of torture and restlessness. That in itself has set you up for how your day will go- grumpy, moody and what have you… lack of sleep kills. In the 1980s, a University of Chicago researcher named Allan Rechtschaffen conducted a series of groundbreaking experiments on rats. After 32 days of total sleep deprivation, all the rats were dead. Man has to live a balanced life of working, sleeping, having fun & take a break- all in balance. Not too much of each

I pray for everyone reading this article that may you find rest for your soul. Let us look at overcoming worry in our next post

Till I come your way again

Peace & Love